farewell, confinement

…you’ve been kind to me. Yes I’m officially done. Thoughts on confinement? Well, my confinement period was a pleasant one. I did not ‘suffer’ in any way at all. Of course the first couple of weeks were difficult because I was still learning everything I need to know about a newborn. Yeah, I didn’t automatically become a pro or a supermom the minute the baby was delivered – (and I still am not one but would like to believe that I can be if I put my mind to it ;p) lots of things to learn on top of everything else. ‘Everything else’ means not being able to eat almost everything, dealing with post-csect pain, kena pakai socks, bengkung, and gasp! Not being able to step out of the house! But it was all very much bearable lah. Plus my mom is a great cook so even with the little option that I had, she made super yummy meals for me to a point where I actually looked forward to meal times. See, how to lose weight? Even my husband enjoyed my meals so NO COMPLAINTS at all in the food department.

Furthermore, I don’t really mind not being able to go out because seriously, up ‘til today, I don’t have the mood to go out! Except to shop for groceries lah – that one is a must and rimas if I don’t get to go to the shops to get what the baby needs. Otherwise, please, I can happily spend time at home with my baby. Partly because my hair’s a total mess right now I need to go to the salon this very second. My already-long hair has grown longer (duhhh) over the month and now my hair is like…too long and lemah semacam. And partly too, because I don’t like leaving Maya at home. I know I have my mom and the maid but I still feel like doing everything myself. I am less possessive now but I still miss her soooo much when I leave the house. I’d be calling whoever’s at home every hour just to check on her. I guess it’s normal for ALL moms to feel that way. Now I know how a mother’s every thought is consumed with thoughts of her child. Now I know why the minute somebody becomes a mom her profile picture changes, her tweets and FB statuses are all about her child and all she ever blogs about is about the baby – like what I’ve been doing lately. I never thought I’d be one of ‘those moms’ but I am proudly one now. I’m like THIS close to setting up a Facebook account for my baby. But I guess that can wait. Hehe.

So anyway, there’s nothing terrible about being in my sort of confinement at all. In fact my mom was really lenient with me towards the end. After 30 days, she was like “you can go to the shops already lah dah 30 days”…but I was the one who told her “I want to pantang 44 days lah!” Konon macam im so diligent in observing the pantang padahal like I said earlier, no mood to go out yet! (But now mood slowly sudah mari..hehe pity Maya, mummy is already thinking about going to the cinema with daddy, I mean, I need to take care of THAT relationship too right? Hehe. Maya understands. After all ,Maya wants adik right? LOL)

I would forever cherish and treasure the experience. My first experience, my first taste of confinement. I guess my two cents would be… Enjoy your confinement to the fullest. Don’t look at what you cannot do or cannot eat, think about what brought you to confinement in the first place. The baby. Take the pilis, param, tungku, bengkung and everything as part of your process of becoming a mummy…and remember how many people out there who are willing to be in your place just to be blessed with a child. So just close your eyes and clip your nose and down that bottle of pati ikan haruan. Hehe.

So long and farewell confinement. See you again, insya Allah in a couple of years’ time? Amin. Hehe.